After I taught Sunday School this past Lord’s Day, I visited the men’s room. As I washed my hands, I decided to read a small piece of art that was hanging on the wall. I’d probably seen it many times before, but I paused for the first time to actually read the words. It looks like this:
Just in case you can’t read it, here are the words:
- Keep skid chains on your tongue. Say less than you think. Cultivate a smoothing voice. How you say it often means more than what you say.
- Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully, no matter what the cost.
- Never lose an opportunity to say a kind word to or about somebody. Praise work well done, regardless of
who did it.
- Be interested in others, their pursuits, their homes and their families. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel your regard him as important.
- Be cheerful. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up. Hide your worries and disappointments under a smile.
- Keep an open mind on all debatable questions. Discuss, but don’t argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to disagree and remain friendly.
- Let your virtues speak for themselves and refuse to discuss the shortcomings of others. Discourage gossip by changing the subject.
- Have respect for the feelings of others. Wit and humor at the expense of a friend is never worth it.
- Pay no attention to destructive remarks and personal attacks on you. Live so that no one will believe them. Remember, a common cause of backbiting is a dissatisfaction with oneself.
- Don’t be concerned about your “just due.” Do a good turn for the sake of being helpful.
The placard is entitled Getting Along With People (Springbrook Publications, Inc., 1993).
What do you think? Will following the counsel above lead to healthy relationships? I think so. I wouldn’t say that I am convinced that smiling while suffering is laudable (#5), but the other points are well-made. I can’t help but think about how much more of a blessing I could have been had I followed the advice above!
Which of the above points hits you between the eyes today?
For me, it is the #8. Too many times in my life I have hurt others with my humor. It’s only been in recent years that I can honestly say I am learning how to apply #1 (“Say less than you think”). Believe me when I say that I was not reared in such a home where words were weighed before they were spoken! Friends in my past also often did not help, laughing at some comments or jokes when a gentle reprimand would have proven more beneficial. But maturity is a beautiful thing! One of my hopes is that my children will mature much faster than I did!
And that’s why I write this blog!
But thanks for stopping by! May this day and this week find us “getting along with people”!
The following are excerpts from an official court document submitted to the Superior Court of the State of California, County of Los Angeles, Central District on January 31, 2017. John C. Depp, II (you know him as the gifted actor Johnny Depp)
is named as one of the plaintiffs. The defendants include a company that Depp had employed to assist in managing his finances.
You may or may not be shocked by the following:
Depp lived an ultra-extravagant lifestyle that often knowingly cost Depp in excess of $2 million per month to maintain, which he simply could not afford. The following examples are just some of the ways that Depp chose to spend his money (p.3).
- Depp spent in excess of $75 million to acquire improve and furnish 14 residences, including a 45-acre chateau in the South of France, a chain of islands in the Bahamas, multiple houses in Hollywood, several penthouse lofts in downtown Los Angeles, and a fully-functioning horse farm in Kentucky (p.3).
- During this same time, Depp spent lavishly on various luxury items, including spending over $18 million to acquire and renovate a 150 foot luxury yacht (p.3).
- Depp spent millions more acquiring and/or maintaining at least 45 luxury vehicles (p.3).
- He spent $30,000 per month on expensive wines that he had flown to him around the world for his personal consumption (p.3).
- 200 collectible pieces of art and works by world famous artists such as Warhol…(p.3).
- 70 collectible guitars (p.3).
- Depp also spent many millions more over the years on extremely rare and expensive Hollywood collectibles. Depp’s collection of Hollywood memorabilia involving such icons as Marilyn Monroe, John Dillinger and Marlon Brando is so extensive that it fills approximately 12 storage facilities…(p.3).
Try to take that in for a minute. The management firm estimated that Depp required in excess of $2 million per month to live at his desired standard of living. $2 million a month! $24 million annually! And it still wasn’t enough!
The document (linked below) also included the following remarks:
Depp’s voracious spending consistently outpaced his earnings (p.10).
Depp, and Depp alone, is fully responsible for any financial turmoil he finds himself in today. He has refused to live within his means (p.4).
Have you any response to this?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
What advice might you offer Mr. Depp?